in spite of – redux
I keep coming back to this… Loving people IN SPITE OF who they are. I so much appreciate people telling it like it is, shining light on the ordinary, saying what everyone kno
figs
A nice blog post from Figs (Fiachra O’Sullivan) in SF: http://www.therapywithfigs.com/stop-asking-for-your-needs/ I just love how down to earth this guy is. Love his use of l
Pransky
I highly recommend checking out the book The Relationship Handbook, by George Pransky. See his website page here. He turns things around. Focusing on attitude, and letting communic
feeling feelings
People report that they find it beneficial when a therapist tells them to stop and go inside and feel their feelings. And sometimes they are asked to be curious, about whether it&#
Relationship 101 and 201
Before I turned 30, I came to the idea that Relationship 101 is about not trying to change your partner. I still forget that. It’s a meditation to see the person as s/he real
sorting
I like to sort things out. The needs from the hurts. Where does it all come from. So you might not get your needs met. That’s one thing. Not the end of the world. In fact, yo
more reasons
There was a billboard sort of sign in the Mission some years ago. It read “17 Reasons Why”. It was on Mission and 17th, above what is now “Thrift Town”. It
our actions reflect our values ??
Is it really true that our actions reflect our values? It turns out that it is not always true. When you aren’t fire-walking or otherwise acting in alignment with your hi
john welwood and the human predicament
I was into the perspective of David Schnarch for a while. I still keep his perspective about a solid self, but now I think he’s missing two key elements. First, he dismisses
the reversal of desire
And to continue the theme of procrastination, Here’s the link to a video about what is called “The Reversal of Desire” Enjoy the perspective of Phil Stutz (and hi