collaborative
More and more this word has been coming up. When I observe couples talking together, it’s the thing you can point to that seems to be missing when they are at odds with eac
views on marriage
Marriage means different things to different people Here are some voices. Look them over and see if they resonate with you: Susan Pease Gadoua (author of The New R
blame is moot
I work as a therapist. I tell people to blame their parents. When in doubt, blame your parents. Just kidding, okay? But let’s run with this. If you have a choice, blame your
head-heart-present-past
If people were in their bodies instead of in their heads… If people felt their feelings instead of talking themselves out of their feelings… If people were present inst
relationships take work
Or do they? What does it mean that relationships take work? People say it over and over as if it’s a truism, like something your mother would say. But earlier this year I did a
what about change
I just experienced having some dearly held conceptions and convictions challenged by the following books: The Shrinking of America: Myths of Psychological Change, by Bernie Zilberg
it’s that time
It’s that time in my generation when everyone I know is losing their parents. And more. Some are loosing siblings too. A friend of mine in the field said that feeling numb
The New English
Sometimes the hardest part of counseling is being present with my own grief, as I mourn the loss of the English language as I know it. Change is hard, right? Long before they died,
confrontation
Confrontation doesn’t have to be so heavy a term. I think of it as pointing out something, calling attention to something.
Kindness
Life is hard enough. How can anyone be anything other than kind?