worth living
What makes your blood rush? What makes life worth living? That’s what I listen for when people share. When do they become animated, lighter, happier, smiling. And I
communication is hard (sometimes)
Sometimes it seems that communication is so tedious. For some couples, when they are different, or easily triggered, it takes effort to find and use words that don’t lead to
how to listen
Jordan Peterson. How To Really Listen To People. The gist: Look, what I want out of this conversationis that the place we both end upis better than the place we left
where else
What is Therapeutic ? What is Therapy ? Instead of thinking of it as an indicating that something is wrong or needs fixing or as something you “need” to do, I invite pe
bless her heart
Here’s a passage, from a talk by John Gottman, the couples therapist, talking about communication skills: In Kentucky, if you end your statement with “bless her heart,&
meditation is as bad as smoking
You’ve heard the news concerning our health: Sitting is the new Smoking. The humor is not lost on me. And since meditation, as most people know it, consists of sitting …
two words
I attended some meetings in the Bay Area with a spiritual teacher in the early part of the century. Sometimes he said that God gave us two words to use: Fuck You On occasion, I can
attachment vs differentiation
Couples work is very hard. That’s why I am fond of that quote, supposedly attributed to a Buddhist Monk: “The hardest thing is another person.” There are seve