empathy only goes so far
I can give you empathy, but I don’t think your problems will go away
… until you want to stop blaming
… until you are ready to put aside your ideas of how your partner is supposed to be and start dealing with reality as it is
… until you are ready to stop trying to make your partner change
… until you are ready to take responsibility for your own experience
… until you are ready to take a sober look at your choices
… until you are ready to stop giving your power away and playing the victim
… until you are ready to shift your focus away from your partner and just focus on yourself and take care of yourself