change this person for me
Sometimes people come to therapy for help changing their partner because they haven’t had any luck so far.
dishes
Differences in living styles can be challenging. Sometimes even the best of relationships and communal households break up because of dishes in the kitchen sink.
don’t bother
Funny book. How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny, New York: Broadway Books, 2007. First came upon it reading a reader’s r
do it to yourself
I like what David Schnarch writes about. See: David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships. New York: W. W. Norton & Comp
uncomfortable
It’s hard to admit that it’s just us. That we can’t stand the feelings the come up for us. And that’s it’s all in our heads. This shame, this guilt, o
you are right – your partner is wrong
Are you wanting to be right? Are you wanting your partner to admit that he or she is wrong? That’s a good goal when you engage your partner in discussion – if you want
freud
Happiness is one’s capacity to love and to receive love.
try
I have attended some meditation retreats where you sit for a bunch of days and try and observe sensations that arise in your body. It can be hard on a Westerner’s knees. You&
waves
You can’t stop the waves but you can learn to surf – referenced in Goldstein, J. & Kornfield, J. (1987) Seeking the heart of wisdom: The path of insight meditation. Bo
difficult?
There is nothing in this world more difficult than another person – Buddhist Monk. Found that at the top of an article by Stan Tatkin, Psy.D. in The Therapist, called “Mari